Saturday Seven (7 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew About Them)

1. Guys want more sex. Everyone’s natural response to this is probably, "Oh Really?" But, that response is probably for the wrong reason. We primarily assume that guys want more sex with their wives due to their physical wiring (their "needs"). But, surprisingly, my research (Yes, I did research) showed that the reason guys want more sex is because of their strong need to be desired by their wives. Men simply need to be wanted. Regular, fulfilling sex is critical to a man’s sense of feeling loved and desired. (I can see my female readers heads going from side to side and necks rocking back and forth right now!)

2. Sex means more than sex. (Yeah... Really, it does!) When guys feel their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life. The flipside of this coin also carries a profoundly negative affect. When a husband or boyfriend feels rejected sexually, he not only feels his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is somehow rejecting his life as a husband, provider, and man. This is why making sex a priority in marriage is so incredibly important! (Really, I'm not just saying this!)

3. Believe it or not, guys enjoy romance, but doubt their skills to be romantic. True, many cats appear to be unromantic neanderthals sometimes ladies, but it doesn’t mean that they want to be that way! Guys want to be romantic, but they just doubt their ability to pull it off. They are plagued by internal hesitations, perceiving the risk of humiliation and failure as too high. Wives and girlfriends can do a great deal to increase their husbands’ confidence in their romantic skills through encouragement and redefining what romance looks like. For example, a wife may balk when her husband asks her to go along to the hardware store, but it’s likely that he’s asking because he sees it as a time they can get away as a couple and hang out together. What’s not romantic about that? Yeah... I know, I know!

4. Guys struggle with visual temptation. This means the vast majority of guys respond to visual images when it comes to women. And, this doesn’t just mean the guys with wandering eyes. Even the most godly husband or Babyface-like boyfriend (as in the r&b crooner who wrote, "Soon As I Get Home") cannot avoid noticing a woman who dresses in a way that draws attention to her body. Even if it is just a glance, these visual images are stored away in the male brain as a sort of "visual rolodex" that will reappear without any warning. Men can choose whether to dwell on these images and memories or dismiss them, but they can’t control when these images appear.

5. Guys really do care about their wife’s or girlfriend's appearance. This isn’t saying that all men want their wives or girlfriends to look like the latest supermodel. What we really want is to know that their wives and or girlfriends are making an effort to take care of themselves (and not letting themselves go) because it matters to them (the husbands and boyfriends). Husbands and boyfriends appreciate the efforts their wives and girlfriends make to maintain their attractiveness. I know that this goes both ways too!

6. Guys want the woman in thier lives to know how much they love them. This was the number one response of guys. (Believe it or not, I know that some of you all don't.) Men aren’t confident in their ability to express this all the time, but they love the women in their lives dearly. Guys want to show how much they love their women and long for them to understand this fact.

7. I did say we want more sex, didn't I?

Have a great weekend everybody!