Saturday, January 24, 2015
Sometimes, despite the fact that you know how mind-blowing orgasms can be, the thought of having sex just feels so...well...meh. Luckily, if your sex drive is tanking lately, there’s usually a reason why—meaning it’s not you, per se; it’s your habits. (And you can do something about those!) Read this post to see if you see yourself and also to see if any of these strike a chord with you.
Everyone knows that when we guys overdo it with the alcohol, it affects our uh performance big time. But it turns out that when you ladies throw back too many glasses of wine,trying to be like Olivia Pope on Scandal... it can have a similar effect. Yes, alcohol can lower your inhibitions, but if you drink more than one drink, it can also decrease your sexual performance—and your libido in general suffers...So fall back on the boozing...
Speaking of depression, taking antidepressants can also wreak havoc on your libido. “Studies show that up to 30 percent of people taking SSRIs—that’s selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors—can experience sexual side effects, including lowered libido, erectile dysfunction, and orgasm difficulties.. I can't tell you to be happy if you're not...but being a little happier helps...It certainly doesn't hurt...
Maybe you have prescription medicine...That can do a job on you too...Anti-depressants aren’t the only drug that can lower your libido; other everyday meds can do it, too: Birth control, anti-histamines, decongestants, and high blood pressure medication can all interfere with a person’s sex drive...Be careful and read the labels and google your medicine..be aware of the side effects.
4. Are you both getting enough sleep?
If you cheat on sleep, you may lessen your libido—and also have a harder time climaxing in bed. Aim for seven to eight hours a night if you can...Unless of course,you are actually having sex..
Being overweight..may decrease your sex drive and your performance in bed...certain medical conditions linked to obesity, like diabetes and high cholesterol, can also impact your libido. The good news? Losing weight can fix these issues.Lose the weight..Exercise..You'll feel better.
6.You Don't know how fine or gorgeous you really are.
7.You are a SOCIAL MONSTER...hAVE A VERY BUSY SOCIAL LIFE!!!
So if you feel yourself saying yes to coworkers and no to your Significant.Other take a minute to assess your priorities and make sure you're not spreading yourself too thin to enjoy a good romp in the sack.
Friday, January 23, 2015
TWO FOR FRIDAY!
1.A trucker who has been out on the road for two months stops at a brothel outside Atlanta. He walks straight up to the Madam, drops down $500 and says, "I want your ugliest woman and a grilled cheese sandwich!" The Madam is astonished. "But sir, for that kind of money you could have one of my prettiest ladies and a three-course meal." The trucker replies, "Listen darlin’, I’m not horny – I’m just homesick."
2. A woman places an ad in the local newspaper. “Looking for a man with three qualifications: won’t beat me up, won’t run away from me, and is great in bed.” Two days later her doorbell rings. “Hi, I’m Tim. I have no arms so I won’t beat you, and no legs so I won't run away.” “What makes you think you are great in bed?” the woman retorts. Tim replies, “I rang the doorbell, didn’t I?"
Everybody have a groovy weekend!
Thursday, January 22, 2015
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
But I thought an impartial group of Justice Department attorneys would at least bring civil right s charges against the officer...I'm afraid that that is too much to hope for...Not gonna happen..
The Justice Department is taking the final steps toward closing the politically charged investigation into the shooting death of an unarmed black teenager in Ferguson, Mo., and clearing the white police officer involved of civil rights charges.
Federal prosecutors have begun work on a legal memo recommending no civil rights charges against the officer, Darren Wilson, law enforcement officials said.
That would effectively close the case in the death of 18-year-old Michael Brown. An investigation by the F.B.I., which is complete, found no evidence to support the charges against the officer, the officials said.
A broader civil rights investigation into allegations of discriminatory traffic stops and excessive force by the Ferguson Police Department remains open, however. That investigation could lead to significant changes at the department, which is overwhelmingly white despite serving a city that is mostly black.
The state authorities concluded their investigation into Mr. Brown’s death in November and similarly recommended no charges.
There is a high legal bar for bringing federal civil rights charges, and federal investigators had for months signaled that they were unlikely to do so. The Justice Department plans to release a report explaining its decision, though it is not clear when.
I don't even want to read it...I've read enough fairy tales in my life.
Attorney General Eric H. Holder Jr., has said that he plans to have it done before leaving office, probably in the next month or two if his successor is confirmed.
Three law enforcement officials discussed the details of the federal investigation on condition of anonymity because the report was incomplete and Mr. Holder and his top civil rights prosecutor, Vanita Gupta, had not formally made a decision. Dena Iverson, a Justice Department spokeswoman, declined to comment.
Benjamin L. Crump, a lawyer for Mr. Brown’s family, said he did not want to comment on the investigation until the Justice Department made an official announcement. “We’ve heard speculation on cases before that didn’t turn out to be true,” Mr. Crump said. “It’s too much to put the family through to respond to every rumor.” Mr. Crump said that at the end of last year that the Justice Department had told him that it was still investigating.
The lawyer for Mr. Wilson did not return calls for comment.
The shooting touched off protests that included violent clashes between demonstrators and heavily armed police. That incident, along with the death of Eric Garner — an unarmed black man who died after a chokehold by a New York police officer in July — sparked a nationwide discussion about policing, race and the use of deadly force.
President Obama, Mr. Holder and Mayor Bill de Blasio of New York, speaking about the issue in personal terms, said they understood the concern that minority neighborhoods had with the police. Those comments prompted rebukes from some law enforcement groups.
Mr. Holder said that the Justice Department’s investigation would be independent from the local authorities. While the F.B.I. and local officials conducted some interviews together and shared evidence, the analysis and decision-making were separate. Mr. Holder resisted calls from local officials to announce his conclusion alongside the county prosecutor last year, in part because he did not want it to appear as if they had reached their decisions together.
Federal investigators interviewed more than 200 people and analyzed cellphone audio and video, the law enforcement officials said. Officer Wilson’s gun, clothing and other evidence were analyzed at the F.B.I.’s laboratory in Quantico, Va. Though the local authorities and Mr. Brown’s family conducted autopsies, Mr. Holder ordered a separate autopsy, which was conducted by pathologists from the Armed Forces Medical Examiner’s office at Dover Air Force Base in Delaware, the officials said.
The federal investigation did not uncover any facts that differed significantly from the evidence made public by the authorities in Missouri late last year, the law enforcement officials said. To bring federal civil rights charges, the Justice Department would have needed to prove that Officer Wilson had intended to violate Mr. Brown’s rights when he had opened fire and that he had done so willfully — meaning he knew that it was wrong to fire, but did so anyway.
Soon after the shooting, witnesses told reporters that Mr. Brown had his hands up in a gesture of surrender when he was shot and killed by Mr. Wilson on a city street. The investigation, however, painted a murkier picture. Mr. Wilson told investigators that Mr. Brown tussled with him through the window of his police car and tried to grab his gun, an account supported by bruises and DNA evidence. Two shots were fired during that struggle.
What happened next as the confrontation moved into the street is in dispute. While some witnesses were adamant that Mr. Brown had his hands up, some recanted their stories. Mr. Wilson testified that Mr. Brown charged at him, and other witnesses backed up his account.
“I’m backpedaling pretty good because I know if he reaches me, he’ll kill me,” Mr. Wilson told a state grand jury, in testimony that investigators said was consistent with what he told the F.B.I. “And he had started to lean forward as he got that close, like he was going to just tackle me, just go right through me,” Mr. Wilson said.
The Ferguson investigation drew Mr. Holder into the spotlight on the issue of race, one he cares about deeply. He traveled to Ferguson, spoke of his experiences as a victim of racial profiling and emerged as a peacemaker during the tense days after the shooting, when police used tear gas on demonstrators and the National Guard was summoned.
The shooting also inflamed longstanding tensions between Ferguson’s black community and the police. Residents told investigators that the police used traffic citations in minority neighborhoods as a way to raise money for the city.
“These anecdotal accounts underscored the history of mistrust of law enforcement in Ferguson,” Mr. Holder said in September after returning from Ferguson, a suburb about 10 miles northwest of St. Louis.
It is not clear when the broader civil rights inquiry of the police department, known as a pattern or practice investigation, will be completed. Under Mr. Holder, prosecutors have opened more than 20 such investigations nationwide. The Justice Department recently called for sweeping changes to the Cleveland Police Department and negotiated an independent monitor to oversee the department in Albuquerque.
Mr. Wilson resigned from the department in November, citing threats of violence against him and other officers. “It is my hope that my resignation will allow the community to heal,” he said.
How can a community heal when they can't get justice in even the most blatant case of police misconduct??
I'm going to stop before I say anymore.. Something that can be read as inflammatory...but I don't know what a Black person has to do to get some justice in this country....It just feels like open season...
This could escalate to something far worse...and when people other than Blacks start attending funerals..perhaps we'll take another look at this issue...but by then it will be far too late won't it?
Tuesday, January 20, 2015
I was always furious and always vowed to never watch them again...Well I might boycott them this year too.
And for the same reason.....All of the Acting nominees are white...Not one Black or Latino nominee...
In 2011, the 20 nominees also were entirely white. Before that, one has to go back to 1998 for an all-white acting group.
The all-white nominees list comes at time when Hollywood is fielding criticism for not doing enough to promote diversity in filmmaking. And just last month, Sony Pictures co-chairman Amy Pascal and producer Scott Rudin were apologizing for leaked emails that appeared to be racially insensitive. Rudin was nominated this morning for producing best picture nominee The Grand Budapest Hotel.
Rev. Al Sharpton -- who formed a Hollywood diversity committee in response to the leaked emails -- has already reacted angrily to the nominees list: “The lack of diversity in today’s Oscar nominations is appalling ... With all of the talent in Selma and other Black movies this year, it is hard to believe that we have less diversity in the nominations today than in recent history." Sharpton added, "The movie industry is like the Rocky Mountains, the higher you get, the whiter it gets."
The Oscar acting nominations are typically a reflection, in some part, of the best roles of the year available to actors and actresses, which makes 2015's lineup troubling.
The two writing categories also were dominated by white men. Not a single woman was nominated in either category. Though the Academy doesn't reveal a breakdown of its membership, a 2012 report by the Los Angeles Times found that of the nearly 6,000 members, 94% are white, 77% are male and 86% are age 50 or older. Last year, actress Lupita Nyong'o took home the best supporting actress Oscar for the film 12 Years a Slave, which featured a mostly black cast and also won the best picture statuette.
But this year’s Oscar nominees, including the best picture heat, has a decidedly racially homogenous feel, with the exception of Selma, which was nominated for the top prize -
But Selma Director, Ava DuVernay, a Black woman was overlooked in the best director category, which was all male, with Mexican director Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu representing the lone example of diversity. Despite its strong reviews -- Selma has a 99% rating with critics on RottenTomatoes -- and epic scope, the film only received one other nomination: best original song. If DuVernay had been nominated in the director category, she would have been the first black female director ever recognized. In response to the nominations, DuVernay offered a diplomatic tone: "Happy Birthday, Dr. King. An Oscar gift for you. To SELMA cast and crew led by our miracle David Oyelowo! To Common + [John] Legend! Kudos! March on!" -
I used to do that a lot when I was younger...Put a good spin on every situation regardless...but today I'm reminded of yet another thing my mother told me..
"Sometimes you just have to see the world for what it is."
And the Oscars this year don't seem any different from 1972....
I think I'll boycott them...See you at the NAACP Image awards..