Saturday 7-7 Relationship Myths (From 2013)

 

From time to time I like to keep it smurfy and light hearted on this blog and weekends are that time for me...I tend to shy away from politics and world affairs and center on fun things....Today is one of those days...So consider yourself lucky...

So Let's look at seven relationship myths....

1. Opposites Attract! - Ha...one of the oldest and most untrue myths around...It’s rare to see a long-term relationship that’s been based on opposite personalities or preferences. We are more likely to be attracted to people who are like ourselves in terms of values and background and basic beliefs...but I'm sure..most of you know that right?


2.You Can Change a Person... Another myth....Women believe this one for some reason that is just beyond me....If you meet a person after say the age of 12....They are who they are and as Maya Angelou says.."When people show you who they are...Believe em"....People want to be challenged—not changed. A Guy wants to be challenged to become a better version of himself and who he ultimately wants to be, not the person you want him to be. This probably goes both ways!

3.Women are attracted to different types of Guys at different times in their life/ Men are attracted to different types of women at any given time in their lives... This is probably not a myth...It's probably true!

4.It's Better to Live Together Before Marriage.  - Believe it or not and it might sound surprising coming from me, (Especially if you  have read my fictional stories in my other blog, "Escapades") but this is NOT TRUE!  The value of cohabiting before tying the knot essentially boils down to who you both are as individuals...It is generally believed that couples who don’t live together tend to be more religious than couples who do, and those kinds of differences, not whether you live together before marriage, are more indicative of relationship success. Basically though I believe this...Ladies....if he's that serious about you...Tell him to put a ring on it first...then let him move in.

5.Pheromones aren't real....Oh yes they are!  I know, some of you are going ...Huh? What? They are smells, smells the human body gives off, despite showering and cologne or perfume that makes the opposite sex attractive to you..Animals know all about it. Pheromones are totally a thing, and they help determine whom we’re attracted to. Recent research has shown that women are more drawn to the smell of some men’s T-shirts after the guy has slept in them a few nights. (That's why I keep that Eagles T-shirt around!)

6.Marriage Kills Your Sex Life!   Not True!  I have heard people say this, but it's usually bitter guys, guys who are on the verge of divorce....What they should say is ...a bad marriage ruins your sex life...A study from 1994 shows married people have sex more often than singles and about the same amount as couples who live together.

7.You should wait until the third date before having sex...   Well...I'll say this about that... The average guy  knows pretty soon if he's into a woman and wants to have a relationship,and this goes both ways “If a man sleeps with a woman and doesn't call her again, chances are he was never going to follow up and pursue the woman  in the first place. I'm a guy. Guys don't generally analyze these things the way women think they do. Very few guys will think, I really like her and am into her; but we slept with together…so I guess it's over! And as for the ones who do,Ladies do you really want to date them?" For real?  Bottom line: Do what you’re comfortable with, when you’re comfortable with it.

Well....Now that I've cleared that up for you...Enjoy your Saturday folks!

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Saturday 7 - Seven Things That Kill Your Sex Drive

Wow! My first Saturday 7 post in awhile and it looks like a buzz kill right?  Wrong!  Knowing this might help you keep the party going ......

 Sometimes, despite the fact that you know how mind-blowing orgasms can be, the thought of having sex just feels so...well...meh. Luckily, if your sex drive is tanking lately, there’s usually a reason why—meaning it’s not you, per se; it’s your habits. (And you can do something about those!)  Read this post to see if you see yourself and also to see if any of these strike a chord with you.

1.Your sex drive might be tanking because you drink too damn much!

Everyone knows that when we guys overdo it with the alcohol, it affects our uh performance big time. But it turns out that when you ladies throw back too many glasses of wine,trying to be like Olivia Pope on Scandal... it can have a similar effect. Yes, alcohol can lower your inhibitions, but if you drink more than one drink, it can also decrease your sexual performance—and your libido in general suffers...So fall back on the boozing...

2. Depresssed??
Speaking of depression, taking antidepressants can also wreak havoc on your libido. “Studies show that up to 30 percent of people taking SSRIs—that’s selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors—can experience sexual side effects, including lowered libido, erectile dysfunction, and orgasm difficulties.. I can't tell you to be happy if you're not...but being a little happier helps...It certainly doesn't hurt...

3. Are You using other drugs? Popping Other pills?

Maybe you have prescription medicine...That can do a job on you too...Anti-depressants aren’t the only drug that can lower your libido; other everyday meds can do it, too: Birth control, anti-histamines, decongestants, and high blood pressure medication can all interfere with a person’s sex drive...Be careful and read the labels and google your medicine..be aware of the side effects.

4. Are you both getting enough sleep?

When you don't get enough sleep( and I'm guilty of this..) it can lead to weight gain..and poor work performance. But unfortunately, there’s another place lack of sleep rears its ugly head- In the bedroom. And it's not just that you're too tired to have sex, either (although that's definitely part of it)
If you cheat on sleep, you may lessen your libido—and also have a harder time climaxing in bed. Aim for seven to eight hours a night if you can...Unless of course,you are actually having sex..

5.Okay,let me just put it out there...You're Fat!  ahhh, overweight.

Being overweight..may decrease your sex drive and your performance in bed...certain medical conditions linked to obesity, like diabetes and high cholesterol, can also impact your libido. The good news? Losing weight can fix these issues.Lose the weight..Exercise..You'll feel better.

6.You Don't know how fine or gorgeous you really are.

Let that marinate! You Don’t Know How fine or Gorgeous You Are.. Poor body image can totally mess with your sex life. ..This pretains to both men and women..If you have negative thoughts about your body, it can translate directly into the bedroom..Why wouldn't it?

7.You are a SOCIAL MONSTER...hAVE A VERY BUSY SOCIAL LIFE!!!

Yes, going out all the time is fun, and it’s really healthy to have a strong social network. But doing so can lead to fatigue, exhaustion, stress, and lack of intimate time with your partner—meaning sex takes a backseat...

So if you feel yourself saying yes to coworkers and no to your Significant.Other  take a minute to assess your priorities and make sure you're not spreading yourself too thin to enjoy a good romp in the sack. 

Think about it!

Saturday 7-Seven Relationship rules you might want to re-examine

Here are some long held beliefs that some people take for the truth that you uhhhh,might want to re-examine...

1.Don't Kiss on the first date-

Really? Says who? I've done it on many first dates and it didn't play a role one way or the other in how good or how bad the relationship later turned out to be.This is a rule you can definitely break! Let your feelings dictate if you kiss her or him at the end of the night or not. If you had a really great time and you’re feeling it, go for it baby!

2.The man always pays....
Ladies....if it's a first date or if he is the one who asked you out...then he should pay....but...There is always a but..But let's keep it real, Neither of you is exactly rolling in dough, so most younger guys can’t afford to always pick up the movie tickets. So plan a few dates yourself and tell him “My treat!” If you two are cool like that...

3.For the brothers- If your boy smashed...You can't!
Welllll, that depends on if it was just a one night stand, a one time thing...or nothing really serious...If they were dating for a few months and had a really bad break up...You really should move on elsewhere..

4.Ladies- Don't approach him...He'll approach you!
Did your grandmother tell you that?  This rule is super old-school. There’s no reason you shouldn’t approach a guy if you're really feeling him.... Trust me..We love it! Plus, there’s nothing sexier to a guy than confidence! Walk up to him and introduce yourself—simple, but bold. It aint gonna hurt nothin..

5.Play Hard to Get-
Uh Uhhhh...Not in this day and age...Playing Hard to get might not get you got!!!
Ladies-Guys get nervous about making a move sometimes, so they want a sign that you're into them before pursuing you. Giving a cat the cold shoulder will do nothing but push him away! Re-read my first sentence.
Simply touching his arm as you’re talking or giving him a flirty, lingering glance as you part ways  is enough to show him that you’re into him as more than just a friend....

6.Don't Mess with someone you work with-
Again-says who? Lord knows I've done it plenty of times in my young life before I got married... I did not however marry a co-worker...but I'm just saying...Even though it would make things a little awkward if it doesn’t work out, sometimes dating someone you work with is okay, especially if you really like each other. To make it work, just don’t gush—or vent—to your coworkers though about every little detail...because then things do get a little funky.

7.Wait three days before calling somebody back once you get their number...
Perhaps the stupidest of all of the dating myths...While I might not call back that night...Waiting three days is enough time for someone else to make their move and for you to become a footnote.

Saturday 7

Okay ,for those women out there who go on and on about what men do wrong on dates ...I thought I would make it fair and write about what YOU all do wrong on dates. Mind you...This is not to bash anyone... Just to illustrate some of the guys complaints....

1.Being Late without calling. This used to be my number one pet peeve when I was in the (dating) game.Now, if you’re going to be more than five minutes late for a date and you don’t call or text, it’s a major fail on your part. Showing up late starts the date off terribly and sets a bad tone. It conveys a lack of importance. We prioritize what’s important in our lives by how much time (and money) we dedicate to it. That being said, either aim to arrive on time or just call the moment you realize you’re going to be late. Good manners can go a long way.

2. Dressing inappropriately Real talk: Being underdressed, overdressed or inappropriately dressed translates as being pretentious and phony, not fun or easy. On a date, especially right after work, many girls often forget to dress sexy. Your business causal outfit is not hot. Conversely, don’t wear close to nothing either. Just because a guy is salivating doesn’t mean he “likes” your attire. (Trust me...he'll talk about you later to his boys)Lastly, if the date is an activity like a hike, forgo the heels and mini-dress because you think they look cute. Always dress appropriately for the moment.

3. Poor eye contact and fake smiles- I really hate this.Having poor eye contact and flashing fake smiles send the wrong messages. The saying goes, “Eyes are the windows to our souls.” If you limit eye contact because you’re looking away, you simply don’t look confident in yourself. Also, fake smiles are fairly easy to spot. Give too many inauthentic smiles and you enter the “looks like a stalker” category. Eye contact should be focused on the person with whom you’re talking. Be sure to mix in a few nods and eye blinks. The rule of thumb is short single nods are most effective; it shows that you’re listening. Double or triple nods make it seem as if you’re trying to speed the person up.

4.Phone addictions One of the biggest mistakes made on a date is using your cellphone or placing it on the table and glancing at it every time you get a message...and texting or tweeting or updating your Facebook status every other minute. This can show you are disinterested in your date. When you’re on a date, please keep your cellphone in your purse or pocket. Your date deserves your full attention.

5. Poor manners If you’re rude to others, it shows that you have poor social skills and aren’t a very nice person. Nothing makes a date want to run away like a rude and impolite person. If you’re on your date and the waiter forgot the extra lemon wedges, and before the waiter is out of earshot, you shout “Stupid Mother (shut your mouth…”) That ain’t nice! And, it will make your date wonder how you will treat him or her in a relationship. As in life, when on a date treat everyone the way you would want to be treated. This goes without saying.

6.Talking about your ex- Oh My God...This will put me to sleep faster than a glass of warm milk.By making frequent mentions of your past relationships, you might be conveying that you’re not over your ex. Living in the past is extremely dangerous. If you can’t stop talking about how great the old flame was or how you enjoyed the things you both did, chances are you still wish you were in that moment. Do yourself (and your date) a favor and admit you’re not yet ready for a new relationship

7. Not knowing the B.B.R. (belly button rule) The direction our belly button faces reflects our attitude and our emotional state. When we face our navel toward someone, we’re subconsciously saying we’re interested in the person or the conversation. Face your navel away, and you’re saying “get me the hell out of this.” Most people do not know this rule, so learn and master it, and you’ll be able to better read and control your interactions. Not listening shows disrespect and is the most passive-aggressive form of disrespect. Listen to your date.(This one aint really that deep, but it is the Saturday seven isn't it? Carry On!

Saturday 7-Seven Sexy Surprises A Guy Might Like

I've written relationship posts for the ladies....So I figured I'd write one for the guys.....So ladies if you are reading and I hope you are...(Judging by the lack of comments I've gotten on my last few posts...Maybe you aren't!)  This one is for you!

1. Spend the whole day in bed

Psst,Hey Ladies ...Do yall want to know a secret? We guys love spontaneity just as much as you all say you do. It’s sexy, it’s fun, and it ensures there’s never a dull moment when we are together. If your plan is to catch us off guard and drive us wild, I know just the tricks to try. (Grab those notebooks!) Turn the heat up at home with one of these seven sexy ideas. 

Turn off your Crackberry, your tablet ,your iphone and unplug the clock, it's time to hunker down with your  guy. Skip your to-do-list for the day and make a new one where everything on it can be done in bed. It's fun, it's free, and it sure as hell beats working all day, don't'  it? Go ahead. What are you waiting for? Play hooky already! In the words of Marvin Gaye...Let's get it onnnnnnnnnnnn!


2. Sex Homework-

Ready to instantly spice things up? Call or text me and give me a little "sex homework" to bring home. Ask me to make a list of the 10 places on your body I'd like to kiss you, or my 5 favorite spots to have sex. The anticipation will build as I completes my uh assignment and I will be eager to turn it in and practice what I've  uh, learned. Note...When I say "I"....I'm speaking collectively for all guys...

3.Be my secret admirer or side jawn....

Ladies, You can still remember the smell of those beautiful roses your man sent you on your birthday, but when was the last time you showered him with public displays of affection? Huh?  Surprise him for lunch looking unbelievably hot in that tight , mini dress he loves, or those tight jeans or have a note telling him to "Come home, now!" (and have on some scandalous lingerie ...)delivered to his office by a messenger. Uhhhh huh...That'll work!

4.For Dessert after a good meal.....You!

Now Do I have to say anymore? After you've both enjoyed a delicious meal, it's time for a one-of-a-kind dessert in bed. Hand him a jar of edible chocolate body paint and a brush, and light a candle -- it's on.

5.Let's Take a Bath Together!

 A little fizz, steam and a hot bath can go a long way for your sex drive. Skip the showers in favor of a romantic evening in the tub together for some sensual foreplay before bed....if you know what I mean and I know you do...

6.Get Dressed up and go out on the town on a whim....Someplace different...Remember what I said about spontaneity.???

7.Learn how to maximize your relaxation time..

Either way works....Can you dig me?

Saturday 7 (Seven things to help out your relationships)

1.First thing you can do is surround yourself with new people.

As all of us get older, our social circles typically shrink. With friends still being a top source for meeting the people we eventually marry, a shrinking pool of people doesn't help. That said, it is important to accept that invitation to your co-worker's dinner party that you had intended to blow off, or take the plunge and join the art appreciation group at the museum. The best thing you can do for your dating life is to create new opportunities … and opportunities come through other people...So be that social monster as one of my friends used to say!

2.I hate to use the term mentor...but get around a sensible person who can give you good advice!

This is a person who can objectively give you relationship advice. Securing a quote unquote Love Mentor(I hate that term!) can be the single most impactful step you make in your romantic life, if done correctly! Doing this correctly means selecting the right person. It can be the same or opposite sex from you. The keys are that they a) share your values. b) can speak to you objectively. c) know what a healthy relationship is (through experience not just watching reality on TV).


3.Self Assess

 The hardest thing to do is self-assess and accept responsibility. Remember former President Bill Clinton saying ''Ahh did not have sexual relations with that woman," but the fact is, he did. And for many of us, we don't know how to face the hard facts — we're picky (not selective), we're overweight (not curvy or built), our style is outdated (not vintage), etc. The sooner we admit our flaws, the easier it is to accept or improve them. Self-awareness is always the first step to self-development.


4.You may have to cut some people out of your life....
Can't say that anymore plainer than I just did...We all males and females have people in our lives who are just plain negative...From the Debbie Downers to the lifelong playas that know so much, but never seem to have anybody...
Hell, Life is hard enough just keeping up, and the last thing we need is a negative force bringing us down and imposing doubt. While we all evolve, not all of us evolve in a positive direction.  Everybody that came with you can't go with you!

5.If You Aren't going to make her your wife, don't make her a mother....If He's not husband material...don't make him a father...Nuff said..

I can't tell you how many people I hear say, "I slept with this person because I think they really care for me." WHAAAAT? IS That's your standard for sex? When did the bar drop so low? (and why wasn't it this low when I was single?)Sex is not a reward for good behavior — if you want to reward someone's kindness, you take them to lunch, not between the sheets! Period. And, don't get me started on "I had sex to save the relationship," I've never once heard someone tell me "Keith, you know I hadn't planned on marrying her, but damn, the sex is so good I'll buy the ring." NEVER. This doesn't happen! Raise your standard and maintain it!

6. Sometimes ,like the Whispers song -Love is where you find it....Not where you were looking for it...Embrace diversity! Nuff said.

7.Create a Plan for your next relationship and stick with it...

Why not? We plan for everything else...we plan… to get in the right school … to get the promotion … to lose the weight … all of these parts of our lives cannot be accomplished without planning. Our romantic life should be no different. Identify an online and offline dating strategy … and follow it!

Now stop reading this blog...Get out there and meet somebody!!

Saturday 7 (Seven Sexy things We Guys Wish you'd try)

1.Psst,hey ladies wanna know a little secret? Guys love spontaneity too.Yeah, we do. It’s kinda sexy, it’s fun, and it ensures there’s never a dull moment when we are with you. If your plan is to catch him off guard and drive him wild, we know just the tricks to try. (Grab those notebooks!) Turn the heat up at home with one of these seven sexy ideas.
Turn off your I-phones or Smart phones and unplug the clock, it's time to hunker down with your man. Skip your to-do-list for the day and make a new one where everything on it can be done in bed. It's fun, it's free, and sure beats working all day, doesn't it? Go ahead. What  you waiting for? Play hooky already!

2.So assign us some uh "Love" (or sex) homework!

Call or text your  man and give him a little "erotic homework" to bring home. Ask him to make a list of the 10 places on your body he'd like to kiss you, or his 5 favorite spots to have sex. The anticipation will build as he completes his assignment and he will be eager to turn it in and practice what he's learned.

3.Put your "toys" in our hands!

Got the guts? These days there is no shortage of pleasure products on the shelves at your local drugstore.

 Although the selection can be vast, most of them look like more fun for you ladies than us - until now.

Introducing the Hanky Panky Remote Bullet by Pure Romance. The sleek, waterproof, wireless bullet has ten powerful speeds and slips discretely into your panties. On the way out, give us the wireless remote control, which works up to 25 feet away, and let the games begin. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

4.Be our "Secret Admirer" or" Secret Crush!"

You can still remember the smell of those beautiful roses we sent you on your birthday, but when was the last time you showered your guy with public displays of affection?

 Surprise the lucky guy for lunch looking unbelievably hot in that dress you know he loves, or have a note telling him to "Come home, now!" delivered to his office by a messenger...

Yeah...now that's what's hot!

5.Serve us yourself for uh, desert!!

After you've both enjoyed a delicious meal, it's time for a one-of-a-kind dessert in bed. Hand him a jar of edible chocolate body paint and a brush, and light a candle -- it's on like popcorn babyyyyy!

6. Go Skinny Dipping.

This may be a bit forward...Depends on how far along and advanced your relationship is. ..But as the weather continues to warm up, stay on the lookout for the perfect place to sneak off to for a naughty and naked dip for two.

Your guy will love that you took the initiative to locate the perfect rendezvous point, and you'll love the excitement in his eyes when he finds out you're willing to go there.

Let's hope!

7. Take a Hot soapy sudsy bath together!

If you're really not feeling  number 6...Number seven is the alternate water sport so to say..A little fizz, steam and a hot bath can go a long way for your sex drive. Skip the showers in favor of a romantic evening in the tub together for some sensual foreplay before bedtime..

Who said that this blog is just politics and wasn't fun anymore?

Saturday 7 - 7 Relationship Myths

From time to time I like to keep it smurfy and light hearted on this blog and weekends are that time for me...I tend to shy away from politics and world affairs and center on fun things....Today is one of those days...So consider yourself lucky...

So Let's look at seven relationship myths....

1. Opposites Attract! - Ha...one of the oldest and most untrue myths around...It’s rare to see a long-term relationship that’s been based on opposite personalities or preferences. We are more likely to be attracted to people who are like ourselves in terms of values and background and basic beliefs...but I'm sure..most of you know that right?


2.You Can Change a Person... Another myth....Women believe this one for some reason that is just beyond me....If you meet a person after say the age of 12....They are who they are and as Maya Angelou says.."When people show you who they are...Believe em"....People want to be challenged—not changed. A Guy wants to be challenged to become a better version of himself and who he ultimately wants to be, not the person you want him to be. This probably goes both ways!

3.Women are attracted to different types of Guys at different times in their life/ Men are attracted to different types of women at any given time in their lives... This is probably not a myth...It's probably true!

4.It's Better to Live Together Before Marriage.  - Believe it or not and it might sound surprising coming from me, (Especially if you  have read my fictional stories in my other blog, "Escapades") but this is NOT TRUE!  The value of cohabiting before tying the knot essentially boils down to who you both are as individuals...It is generally believed that couples who don’t live together tend to be more religious than couples who do, and those kinds of differences, not whether you live together before marriage, are more indicative of relationship success. Basically though I believe this...Ladies....if he's that serious about you...Tell him to put a ring on it first...then let him move in.

5.Pheromones aren't real....Oh yes they are!  I know, some of you are going ...Huh? What? They are smells, smells the human body gives off, despite showering and cologne or perfume that makes the opposite sex attractive to you..Animals know all about it. Pheromones are totally a thing, and they help determine whom we’re attracted to. Recent research has shown that women are more drawn to the smell of some men’s T-shirts after the guy has slept in them a few nights. (That's why I keep that Eagles T-shirt around!)

6.Marriage Kills Your Sex Life!   Not True!  I have heard people say this, but it's usually bitter guys, guys who are on the verge of divorce....What they should say is ...a bad marriage ruins your sex life...A study from 1994 shows married people have sex more often than singles and about the same amount as couples who live together.

7.You should wait until the third date before having sex...   Well...I'll say this about that... The average guy  knows pretty soon if he's into a woman and wants to have a relationship,and this goes both ways “If a man sleeps with a woman and doesn't call her again, chances are he was never going to follow up and pursue the woman  in the first place. I'm a guy. Guys don't generally analyze these things the way women think they do. Very few guys will think, I really like her and am into her; but we slept with together…so I guess it's over! And as for the ones who do,Ladies do you really want to date them?" For real?  Bottom line: Do what you’re comfortable with, when you’re comfortable with it.

Well....Now that I've cleared that up for you...Enjoy your Saturday folks!

And Now...For some good news!

No you are not reading my other blog, Escapades!  I just decided after all of the bad news lately about Penn State and the Mass Murders in Aurora...It might be good to talk about something else for a change...something the world needs more of...Love...yes...Sex definitely...but not too soon and better after you are happily married.

A survey recently stated that Black teenagers in the United States have become much less sexually active over the past two decades, and those who do have sex appear to be more likely to use condoms. Yes ..it's true...In this age of HIV and Hypersexuality and out of wedlock births...It appears to be true if this survey is to be believed.


The declines are "dramatic," said report author Laura Kann, who studies adolescent health for the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
The numbers don't disclose anything about why black teens might have changed their behavior. "This tells us what kids do, but not why," Laura Kann said.
Overall, teens of all racial and ethnic groups are about as sexually active as they were a decade ago. And the rate of condom use by teens -- just six in 10 used them the last time they had sex -- hasn't changed much since the 1990s.

By contrast, the numbers for black teens are strikingly different. The percentage who reported ever having sex fell from 82 percent in 1991 to 60 percent in 2011. Ms. Kann said the numbers coincide with drops in teen pregnancy and births.

Increased education about HIV/AIDS among blacks, leadership in the black community and a public health focus on black Americans could explain the change, Ms. Kann said. Of course I and leaders in the Black community have been saying this for the past twenty years...It looks as if it's finally sinking in.

the new CDC teen-sex survey also reveals that:

• The percentages of students who've had sex have remained fairly stable over the last 20 years for Hispanic students (49 percent in 2011) and whites (44 percent in 2011).
• Overall, 47 percent of all teens surveyed said they'd ever had sex, down from 54 percent in 1991. The rate has barely changed since 2001.
• About one-third of students said they'd had sex within the past three months, and 15 percent said they'd had sex with four or more partners.
• The percentage of sexually active teens who use condoms grew from 46 percent in 1991 to 60 percent in 2011, although the number hasn't changed much in recent years. Black teens are more likely to use condoms: their rate is 65 percent.

The recent stabilization of condom use could have something to do with less focus on HIV, which has largely become a treatable disease, Kann said. Also, "the percentage of high school students overall who have had HIV education has dropped since 1997. That hasn't helped any either."

The new survey results come from the CDC's National Youth Risk Behavior Survey of students in grades 9 through 12 from both public and private schools. About 15,000 students take the surveys each year.
Jennifer Manlove, area director of Fertility and Family Structure with the Child Trends advocacy group in Washington, D.C., said the survey shows that much of the evolution toward less sexual activity occurred in the 1990s, even among black teens.

"There's been a little bit more since 2000, but not really that much. The big news in the 1990s was the real focus on the AIDS epidemic and a lot of attention given to that," she said.

Just when I was losing hope in some of our youth...Just when I thought that nobody was talking about HIV seriously...I get this news and a ray of hope..

More so than just HIV  and STD's...The glut of unwwed mothers has been a concern of mine also...Unwed mothers in their teens had become damn near epidemic in the 1990s and I was concerned about the social and economic welfare of both the mother and children who were almost surely doomed to poverty...

If this survey is on the money and young people are holding off on having babies and practicing safe sex...It tells me that one, the number of people being born into poverty may decrease and with that, the public doles will also decrease and two...our young people are starting to think seriously about their lives and their well being.

In a world of diminishing hope and values...That alone is a reason to cheer!

5 things guys probably don't know about women!

1.Women want to cuddle after sex because ,they are more than likely nude and they are freezing.

2. When considering whether or not to ask out the girl you're afraid to talk to, keep this in mind: No matter who you are or what you look like, it's always flattering to them ,when you flirt or hit on them...always...( I got this from a woman!)

3. When Your signigficant other or spouse asks you to pick an outfit for them...Humor them and pick one...Just don't expect her to go with the one you picked!

4.If you're really funny....a woman just might sleep with you! (Then again..she might not!)

5.Eye contact should last exactly 0.28 seconds. The quickest glance is the most effective. Treat a woman you're scoping  like the sun during a solar eclipse.