Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Love Treadmill


A guy sees a woman in a bar. He sends her a drink. She smiles at him. He sends her another drink. She accepts the second drink, lifts her hand in a toast, and drinks his second drink. He sends her a third drink and a fourth drink. Each time, she smiles at him and enjoys the drink. Around this time, he walks over to where she is sitting to begin a conversation. As he does, another guy walks over to her... a guy who hasn't spent a dime on her. She smiles at the guy and begins talking to him. They both get up and walk out of the bar. The guy who just bought the four drinks feels like the biggest fool known to man.

The next week, the same guy sees another woman in the same bar that he finds attractive. He sends her a drink. She not only smiles but, she winks at him. He smiles back and lifts his glass to her in a toast. A few minutes pass and he sends her another drink. She smiles at him warmly so, he sends her yet another drink. She smiles at him and he sends her one more drink. They are both smiling at each other now and he walks over to her. She introduces him to the guy sitting next to her, her husband, who hasn't bought his wife a drink all night. He didn't have to because her drinks were all bought and paid for by this poor guy. They both thank him, they got up, and left. Once again, this guy feels and looks like the biggest fool known to man.

What is wrong with this picture? I'm glad you asked and here it is... This man didn't learn a thing from the first week, did he? Here he is the next week, buying drinks for yet another woman that he doesn't know and here, once again, the woman leaves with another man who hasn't had to do anything. The moral of this story is... if you keep doing the same thing, you will keep getting the same results.

I have a dear friend who keeps getting involved over and over again with a guy who obviously has either a stalker or another girlfriend. Every time she has spent the night with this guy, his other woman has knocked on the door early in the morning and my friend has to leave because the man she has been spending the good part of the night with has wanted to avoid a scene (if you can believe that). She leaves vowing to never see him again. A few months go by and it's the same scenario again. I'm shaking my head here.

Then, there is my other friend who, after being told by her man that he's been cheating on her for years, was asking me today if I had any ideas of how she could get him back! My question was... Why would you want him back? Then, I remembered something a wise old Delta said to me once. "Fresh heartbreak is better than stale loneliness any day." Is it?

If you keep doing the same thing with the same people over and over again, you're going to get the same result. Why will it be different the next time? Why should it be? And, I'm saying that! Feel me?

21 comments:

clnmike said...

Lol, I actually saw the guys mistake as sending a second drink.

You send one drink get the thank you and than you go over after she she has sipped on it for a while.

What you dont do is keep sending her drinks.

Hell I prefer to introduce my self and offer to buy the drink onsite to avoid any confusion.

But I see your point, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over agian an expecting a different result each time.

The thing is that people's need for compainionship overrides any common sense they might have.

Oyin said...

I completely understand your motto...but LOVE is a funny thing. We cant help what love does to one. I dont know about keep buying a woman drinks over and over...but I do know how the lady feels that wants her man back. But actually...if he doesnt want to be wanted ...then leave well enough alone....

Angel said...

Same things, same results, what a great way to tell it. Ths should be in a guide to love handbook!

PS *sad face* no one has ever sent me a drink. I seem to attract the bold time that just come over.

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

Hey Brother!

So true...same actions equal same results!

Toni said...

Good Post and Funny as hell as usual!

Angie B. said...

This is real talk Keith!

Sunflower said...

You're becoming the Dr.Phil of the Blogosphere Keith-lolololol.

Lisa said...

So True, So True!

Halo said...

I am standing and applauding Keith, Real talk right there!

Vanessa said...

True...but whoever said that Love makes sense?

Grover Tha Playboy said...

Preach Brother Preach!-lolol.

Simon Bastion said...

Once again,Well Written.

James Perkins said...

That guy sent four drinks over before he decided to go over and talk? I usually go over after sending one.lolololol..That was a riot!

Jazzy said...

"Love makes me do foolish things"-lololol.

Tate2 said...

Real Talk Keith...I found this informative and funny, especially the guy that was sending all of the drinks over...What a nut!-lolol.

Swaggie said...

Kool Post Keith!

Captain Jack said...

Lolololol...I so love your blogs..both of them..You write from such an interesting perspective.

Raven said...

This obviously is some dating ritual exclusive to the Northeast region of the country. Down here...in the "derrty" it goes a little something like this...

Dude: say uh...lil mama let me holla at you fo a minute
Female: (smiling uneasily, but still cordial) Hi.
Dude: (begins to pull on female's arm to try to talk to her) Say uh...I seent you ova herr (not here) and I uh wanted to holla at yo fine a$$
Female: You know what...I'm just here with my girls trying to have a good time, but thanks for coming over.
Dude: &*^% you then you old stuck up *&^%$...ni99a trying to be nice to you...you ain't even all that...trick!

Okay I know that was totally unfair to my brothers, but that wasn't uncommon back in the day when I was going out...of course this was over 10 years ago so hopefully things have changed. Those same guys are probably now the guys that send 4 drinks. LOL!

Great post!!!

Thoughts of a Southern gal said...

LOL @ ole boy sending drinks. His first mistake was sending the second drink.

You are correct. You can't keep doing the same thing over and over and expect different results.

Rich Fitzgerald said...

Take off the cape and all your problems will be solved. You know I feel your pain.

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

You're 100% right.




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