Friday, July 10, 2009

The Mysterious Double Life Of Steve McNair


With all of the coverage of Michael Jackson's death and Memorial Service (which, by the way, was an incredibly moving and well put together program... BET, take note!) we seem to have forgotten that death claimed yet another celebrity over the holiday weekend... recently retired quarterback Steve McNair.

As reported by MSNBC...

Former NFL star Steve McNair was shot dead in his sleep last week by a 20 year old girlfriend distraught about mounting financial problems and her belief that he was seeing someone else, police said Wednesday.

Sahel Kazemi "was spinning out of control" when she shot McNair four times as he dozed on a sofa early Saturday, then turned the gun on herself, Police Chief Ronal Serpas said. Interviews with friends revealed that she was making payments on two cars, her rent was doubling and she suspected the married McNair was having a second affair with another young woman. (Man got around,didn't he? I'm just saying!)

She told a friend on Friday that "My life is a ball of s--- and I should end it," Serpas said. Police earlier had labeled McNair's death a homicide, but waited for further tests and the revelations about Kazemi's personal problems before concluding that she pulled the trigger of a 9 mm semiautomatic pistol in a condominium McNair rented with a friend.

McNair, 36, a quarterback for the Tennessee Titans most of his career, met Kazemi six months ago at a sports cafe where she was a waitress and his family often ate. She seemed happy and eager to build a life with him, but something went wrong.

"We do know that she was clearly sending a message during the last five to seven days of her life that things were going bad quickly," Serpas said, though there was no indication she told anyone she planned to harm McNair.

Serpas said detectives learned that Kazemi recently found out about another young woman she thought McNair was romantically involved with and had even followed that woman home, though she did not confront her.

Serpas said police believe McNair was asleep when he was killed because there were no defensive wounds. After shooting McNair in the head, Kazemi apparently shot him twice in the chest before shooting him again in the head. Before shooting herself, she sat next to his body and "tried to stage it so she would fall in his lap," Serpas said. She did, but her body slid to the floor and ended up at McNair's feet. The gun was found underneath her.

Kazemi's family told reporters that the woman was so confident McNair was divorcing his wife of 12 years that she was preparing to sell her furniture and move in with him. But associate Mike Mu, who has worked with McNair's charitable association for years, said earlier Wednesday that McNair's wife, Mechelle McNair, "didn't know who this girl is." No records of divorce proceedings have surfaced. The McNairs have four children.

Two days before the shooting, police stopped Kazemi driving a Cadillac Escalade sport utility vehicle that McNair had given her for her birthday in May.

According to an arrest affidavit, Kazemi had bloodshot eyes and alcohol on her breath. She refused a breath test and told an officer "she was not drunk, she was high." She was charged with DUI. McNair was with her but not charged. He later made her bail.

Serpas said that even though both her name and McNair's were on the Cadillac's title, she was apparently responsible for making payments. She was also making payments on another car after she couldn't sell it.

Kazemi had no history of violence, but "on the last several days of her life it's obvious that she made some very poor decisions," Serpas said.

Mechelle McNair has not spoken publicly since the shooting. Bishop Joseph W. Walker III of Mount Zion Baptist Church, which the McNairs have attended since moving to Nashville in 1997, said Wednesday that she is doing as well as can be expected.

"Her faith is what's sustaining her now," he said. "We haven't talked about the circumstances of his death. She is processing it in a private way. It's obviously devastating on so many levels."
A memorial service is set for Thursday night in Nashville, with the funeral Saturday in his native Mississippi.

The four-time Pro Bowl quarterback was being remembered Wednesday at the stadium where he played much of his career. The Tennessee Titans opened LP Field for fans to watch video highlights of McNair's 13-year NFL career and look at photos of the quarterback. There was also a book for them to write messages that will be given to the family.

McNair was known as "Air McNair" for his passing prowess at Alcorn State in Mississippi. In 2000, he helped lead the Titans to the Super Bowl, where they ended up a yard short of a touchdown on the last play of the game when they trailed by seven points.

He spent the last two seasons with the Baltimore Ravens before retiring from the NFL last year.

My Comments...

This does not seem to be in character with the Steve McNair I thought I knew but, then again, I didn't know him personally... I knew only what I saw on the football field. That's all anybody else except for his friends and family knew too. Does anybody really know anybody?

This story certainly sounds like something I would have written about on my other blog, "Escapades" yet, here is life becoming stranger than anything ficticious I could've written. We may never know the entire truth about what went on that night in that bedroom. And, maybe... just maybe... WE don't ever need to know. These tragic events have already tarnished a man's image and caused his wife and children more hurt than they ever needed to experience in the first place.

24 comments:

James Perkins said...

So True ,So True Keith!

Simon Bastion said...

Such a tragedy!

Toni said...

When I read about this on Saturday I just kept wondering...Who is going to die next...I just couldn't take it.

Tate2 said...

In the end, Steve Mcnair's "Game" caught up to him...such a shame!

Grover Tha Playboy said...

What a tragedy...I'm at a loss for words.

Angie B. said...

I hate to be negative..but if he had been where he was supposed to be and with who he was supposed to be with...this would have never happened.

Lisa said...

I hate to say this, but I don't feel sorry for him at all..I feel sorry for his wife and children.

Halo said...

His poor wife...She had no idea any of this was going on...I feel so sorry for her.

Vanessa said...

If you're going to be a jump off ,you have to know your position.

His jump off didn't know hers.

Swaggie said...

It's a shame he had to be killed and found like that, with his girlfriend...This is a huge embarrassment to his wife and family.

Sean said...

This is a huge tragedy all the way around...and for everybody involved.

Captain Jack said...

You know what they say..Cheaters never win!

Mizrepresent said...

Very sad indeed. My prayers go out to his family and friends.

Brenda said...

I'm with Lisa..I can't feel sorry for him. He was not only cheating on his wife, but on his mistress too!!! What did she expect? I do feel sorry for the wife.

Cheryl said...

If a man will cheat on his wife with you, what makes you think he won't equally cheat on you too?

His girlfriend was seriously deluded, but she was only 20..An older woman would have known better.

Sunflower said...

Regardless of what he did..He still had a wife and children and my prayers are for all of them.
This was just a horrible tragedy.

Jazzy said...

My condolences go out to him and his people.

Rich Fitzgerald said...

This is just sad on so many levels, especially where the wife is concerned who now has to show compassion and love for the man who was tipping out on her.

Just makes you think. I would never want to go out like that. He will forever be remembered in this way. See Revelations 22:11 for more on this "unveiling" of truth.

12kyle said...

Good post, Keith.

I did one on him as well. I tried to remain objective b/c I didn't know him personally. We shared mutual friends but the way that he's being painted is not the way that I knew of him

At the end of the day, Steve was murdered in cold blood while he was asleep by someone that he trusted. I don't know what happened between him and his wife. It's none of my business. I know that his wife, sons, family, and community will miss him.

A Free Spirit Butterfly said...

Thanks for posting this. I'd seen bits of it on the news, but never to entire story. I don't know him either, but my heart goes out to his four children. I just don't understand why we can't make a decision to either work it out or go our separate ways. Life is not as hard as we make it seem!

Love, peace and blessings
China

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

Tragic indeed. She obviously had underlying psychiatric issues. I really feel for his wife and kids, how does one deal with the myriad of emotions?

Strongblkwmn said...

RIP Air McNair. I really wish the press didn't think it was necessary to uncover every detail of the lives of famous people. My heart really goes out to his wife and children.

Oyin said...

RIP Steve....I dont get into football much but this was a mess...



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♫Hershey's Kiss♫ said...

I Feel Sorry for His wife and Kids. It's something that everything hit the fan at the time of his death. I Just pray for her strength as well as the mistress's family and all that. It most definitely is prayer time.




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