Friday, November 14, 2008

Deal Breaker

Okay, it's Friday so I wanted to do something light. I have heard a lot of stories from women and a few guys of horrible first dates. I was having lunch inside yesterday because it was raining and a couple of my co-workers and I were talking about something they called a "Deal Breaker". It's the one thing a person might do that would make you say... "Nah, I don't think I'll ever go out with this person or I'll never sleep with this person." It's usually something that has to do with hygiene or the lack of it. Here is my story of one such deal breaker. After all these years, I'd almost forgotten about this incident. Check it out...

I was a junior in college and I had just moved off campus and into town. I had my first apartment and I was living with one of my frat brothers... the one that freaked out at the thought of going to the spring formal on a school bus because of what "THE WHITE PEOPLE" would think of us. He had these two girls from campus who came by our apartment all the time... I'll call them Vonnie and Camay. They seemed like the best of friends but, something about them always seemed a little off kilter. You know, like maybe they weren't as chummy as they appeared to be. Both were nice looking girls, petite, and about the same dress size so, as a result, they often wore each other's clothes. A blouse here, a pair of pants there, a skirt, or what have you.

It seemed that every time I came to my apartment from class, one or both of them was there. I asked my frat brother which one of them he was interested in and he told me neither. My next question was... "Well, why are they always over here?" He explained that the three of them were friends and they were all just kickin' it. Cool. They got high together, studied together, stayed up all night playing cards, and watched TV. I was kind of attracted to Camay so, I started staying up with them talking to her and eventually wound up going back to campus with her to her room. It was close to homecoming that year and Earth ,Wind & Fire (EWF) came to our college for homecoming. We had people coming up from Lincoln, Cheyney, Millersville, West Chester, and Pitt to see them. It was the biggest thing going. Camay and I were supposed to go see them and that morning, we were in her room together. I helped her take a big bag of her laundry down to the basement where the washers and dryers were.

When we got back to her room she said... "Oh, my God... I had so much laundry to do that I don't have any clean bras or panties left." I said to her, "Well, the concert ain't for five hours... your clothes will be finished by then." She said, "Oh I'm not folding any clothes today... I'll just see what Vonnie has in her drawer." I was floored! In total amazement I said, "Hey, what did you say?" She said just as nonchalantly... "Oh, we always wear each other's clothes... she's like my sister." I said, "Yeah... clothes are one thing but, underwear is kind of private. You all don't always do this, do you?" I asked. She said... "Well, I haven't gone this far before but, this is an emergency. Don't you want me to have clean drawers on when we go to see Earth, Wind & Fire?" I was skeeved, but I played it cool. I said to her, "I don't think she'd appreciate it if you did something like that. Don't go in her things." Camay just looked at me and smirked, "It's not like I'm not gonna wash them." I was completely turned off. Any attraction I might have had for this girl just went straight out of the window. I sat there in amazement as she went through the other girl's panty drawer, as though I wasn't in the room. I don't care how close they were. Nobody is that close, nor should they be. Feel me?

If nothing else, I was a man of my word so, I did take her to the Earth,Wind & Fire concert. She had on a nice tight pair of jeans with the zippers up the legs and a bright blouse. All I could think about the entire time was her underwear... whether it was hers or her roommate's. When she asked me to slow dance while EWF was singing "Reasons", I kept thinking about that so, I couldn't even get into the dance. I was just completely turned off. After the dance, she asked me if I wanted to go up to her room and I declined. I told her that I was tired. I went back to the apartment and, for once, it was empty so I watched television the rest of the night. I couldn't bring myself to tell my frat brother. I didn't know what he'd think. I didn't have to wait too long to find out.

The next morning he came home and told me... "Keith... man, you won't believe this... those two girls got into a big fight last night. Did you know that Camay wore a pair of Vonnie's draws to the concert last night! Hahahahahahaha! Oh man... Vonnie hit the ceilin' and kicked her butt! Man, it took about three people to break that up. Hahahahahahahahahaha! That's some low down, backwater, backwoods crap right there. I told Vonnie about always lettin' Camay wear her clothes. I told her it was gonna get deep one day... I told her!"

He kept on laughing and he called a couple of guys to tell them about it. I finally told him that I had been over in the room with her and saw her do it. I didn't actually see her do it but, I saw her pull them out and heard her say what her intentions were. He laughed even harder. Ice, the Que, used to go with her and he told me, "Man, I always thought she was "common" like that, that's why I had to cut her loose. Keith, I sure hope you didn't sleep with her." I never answered the question. I felt sick to my stomach just thinking about it. One thing I did know... there was no way I could be involved with her ever again.

The friendship between Vonnie and Camay was over and the two never roomed together again. Even though Camay washed, dried, and ironed the underwear, Vonnie never accepted them back... she told her she could keep them. Camay never understood what all the fuss was about and never thought that she did anything wrong. Most of the people that heard about it, looked at her and laughed behind her back. She just never got it.

It has been said that back in those days, when it came to women, I didn't have any standards but, here was proof that I did. This was my "deal breaker". Does anybody out there have any type of behaviors or actions that are "Deal Breakers" when dating? I would love to hear about them.


Angie B. said...

Eeeeeeeewwwwwww,That was just plain
nasty...I can't believe she did that.

Toni said...

That was trifling.

Grover Tha Playboy said...

That babe was foul..

Lisa said...

I can see why you were turned off by her...she was disgusting.

Sunflower said...

As usual an interesting story...that is just too bizzarre for words.

James Perkins said...

Brother, you have lived a life.

tate2 said...

I'm with Angie B. eeeeeeeeeeeew,that was nasty.

Simon Bastion said...

Definitely a deal breaker for me.

The F$%K it List said...


Thank God you had some standards because that right there is skanky!

Somebodies Friend said...

I'm sure a lot of people have things that they have done that would make a lot of other people want to throw up.

I was talkin to my gal and I ask her to never keep anything from me, well what I meant was, anything that was going on NOW, everybody has a past, and some of those pasts aren't pretty, I will guarantee that.

But what someone did in their past is in their past, if it is going to hurt me or discust me I really don't need to know.

All I need to know is that that type of behavior is not still being done, that's all.

That's what I meant by full disclosure, if the gal is doing it NOW, it shouldn't be anytthing that I would find repulsive.

What is in the past is in the past, nobody can change what they hae done in the past. If you are willing to pick up the pieces and CHANGE your behavior that is all that matters.

Hell, I have all kinds of things that I have done that I am ashamed about, even though it seems my life is an open book!

But all I can do is move on and try and be a better person, and not feel so hopeless that I will stoop so low as to let people abuse me, or do other things that are not of perfect moral code.

I can't ask anyone to be perfect, and no one can change there past, as long as the behavior that one is to ashamed to admit to is in the past, that is all that matters to me.

Just don't keep any secret about what you are doing NOW, thats all


nikki said...

great storytelling (even with the huge 'ewwwwwww' factor)

dealbreaker for me? i have many, but one for sure is if the cat doesn't bathe everyday. actually had a guy tell me he only took a shower three times a week cuz he didn't think he was dirty. if there is such a thing as a clit retreating into itself, that's what mine did.

Shorty said...

Great story! I would've been just as peeved if a roommate did that. Can't say that it would've come to blows, but when I was that age...who knows. My temper used to be more than what it is now. Hope Camay learned a lesson!

Anonymous said...

Ewww..she is trifling. I'm not understanding the part about her not folding clothes. Was she just gonna wash then and dry later?

Deal breakers for me : fcked up shoes, missing teeth. I have plenty of more.

Shanita Waters said...

yuck! That's disgusting.
You have the best stories. LOL

I once played truth or dare with a guy that ended up telling me that he been with another man. That was my deal breaker right there. I coudn't look at him without visualizing him participating in the acts he told me felt "natural". I stopped taking his calls and he eventually got the hint that he repulsed me.

The Dreamy One said...

boy have you had an interesting life.

its not normal to wear other peoples underwear. why didnt she go commando,lol

if your not coming correct with me then that can be a deal breaker for me. I dont like it when men come off very arrogant. its a turn off!!!

Trish said...

I've been lurking for a while now but wanted to post on this. A deal-breaker for me is a first date with a man and he doesn't pay for it. I met this guy and he was making it a point to see that I went out with him. After him finally convincing me to go out with him he informs me that we'll have to take my car because his tags aren't legal. Then he made all these plans of things he wants to do but as soon as he gets in the car he tells me that he has NO money but he'll have it NEXT time. Little did he know there would be no next time. To top it off, before the date was over, he asked if I would take him to his friends house to "pick something up" and he ended up staying in that house a good 20mins, it took everything in me to not leave his tail stranded. I have zero tolerance for inconsiderate people.

Opinionated Diva said...

First of all, I am shocked and disgusted that she really didn't know there was something wrong about wearing some one else's underwear. That is sooooo gross!!!!!!!!!

Deal breakers...I have so many. Men who don't take care of their kids is at the top of the list.

Mizrepresent said...

Bad breath, bad teeth is a definite acting ignorant will get you thrown under the bus before u realize.

LadyLee said...

LOL!! Now THAT'S what I call a deal breaker.

My deal breaker: a dude that whines and complains about his place in life. Goodness.

CurvyGurl said...

Hilarious! I always find it funny when you choose to keep quiet about something and it arises anyway.


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